Pascalle Bergmans 📣

Last week, Bill (a self-proclaimed “business coach” 🙃) commented this on my post:

“Please tell me you don’t wear that on stage at a corporate event.”

Oh Bill…

I absolutely do. 💅

Clearly, you don't know me.

(Bless him).

Fun story:

Zendesk ($1.9BN company) requested I wear my sparkly outfit when they booked me!

So if my outfits are good enough for them...

I'm sure you...

Bill from Annapolis, Maryland...

Will survive.

On a serious note...

I'm sick of this.

Women hit big stages, smash big goals… 
and we’re STILL reduced to our bodies.

Too sparkly? “Not serious.”
Too plain? “Not confident.”
Too bold? “Distracting.”
Too subtle? “Forgettable.”

It’s exhausting.

And it’s also irrelevant.

If a bit of glitter, a hint of shoulder or the tightness of my top fabric makes someone question my credibility...

That says far more about them!!!

Dear Bills of the world,

I’ll wear what I damn well please.

Mind your business.

My clients hire me for my brand.
My energy. My voice. My sparkle.

(And yes, that includes my outfit choices!)

So no...

I won’t tone it down.

And to every woman reading this:

Don’t you dare, either.

On some days, my husband won’t see our daughter.

And it sucks. For him, for me, for her 💔

He leaves at 6:30am.
He’s back at 7:00pm.

Our newborn (just 9 weeks old)…

👶 Wakes up at 7am
😴 Is asleep by 7pm

That’s a whole day missed.

Now...

His employer DOES offer flexibility.
(And I’m so grateful for that 🙏)

But there are still times when client meetings, travel or late finishes mean he doesn’t make it home in time.

And honestly?

Solo parenting is not for the weak 😅

I think about how many working parents don't have ANY flexibility.

And what that means...

- Families stretched to breaking point
- Kids who barely see a parent all week
- Parents missing first words and first steps
- Parents drowning in guilt for not “being there”

And for what?

So every desk in the office is full at 9am?
So a manager can physically see you working?
So they can justify extortionate office rent?

We say we want present fathers.

Fathers who share the load.
Fathers who show up.

But some workplaces make that impossible.

Flexibility shouldn’t be a privilege.

It should be a RIGHT!

Because when parents have it, they can:

- Kiss their child goodbye at the school gates
- Enjoy quality breakfast time with family 
- Make it home for dinner, bath & storytime

Work and family don’t need to compete.
Unless company policies force them to.

We don’t talk about this enough.

I'd love to hear your experience, especially dads 👇

“It’s not professional to dress like that.”

Oh, bore off, Susan. 🙄

→ I’ve keynoted in a hot-pink crop-top suit.
→ I’ve hosted shows in a sparkly jumpsuit.
→ I've delivered corporate gigs in floral dresses.

And every time I post a stage photo...

There’s always someone (usually a man in the exact same navy suit, white shirt and plain tie)...

Who feels the need to chime in:

“You don’t actually wear that, do you?”
“Isn’t that a bit too much for this event?”
“I don’t think you look appropriate.”

But now and again...

There’s the occasional Susan, too - clipboard in hand, policing hemlines like it’s her full-time job.

Here’s my question back:

Are you uncomfortable because...

→ I’m “breaking the rules”…

Or because...

→ You don’t have the guts yourself? 😏

I dress like this on stage on purpose.

It’s part of the experience.
It’s part of my brand.
It’s part of my energy.

And guess what?

- Event organisers love it.
- Audiences remember me.
- Companies book me because of it.

This is what people get wrong about speaking.

❌ You don’t get booked despite being different.
✅ You get booked because you are.

Event organisers don’t want another grey-suited clone repeating the same tired talk.

They want someone unforgettable.

And that's what I bring 
(Sequins included ✨)

So if my outfit is “too much” for you?

Cool.

You’re not my client.
You’re not my stage.
You’re not my audience.

Because the people who do book me?

They value the whole package.

The talk, the energy, and yes, the glitter. 💅

Speaking of bookings…

I’m officially back from maternity leave and now taking 2026 speaking gigs.

If you want someone who’ll:

- Light up your stage
- Deliver a high-impact talk
- Bring unapologetic sparkle

DM me. Let’s talk 📩

I didn’t start a business so people would clap when I post something on LinkedIn.

(That gives me the ick.)

I started because I was TIRED of this 👇

🚲 Cycling 40 mins in -6°C (I couldn’t afford the bus).
🛒 Walking round the supermarket with a calculator.
🍓 Putting fruit back because it felt like a luxury.
💵 Choosing between rent and groceries.
🚩 Working for bosses who harassed me.

Do I want to be a millionaire?

Sure.

I wouldn’t say no.

But honestly?

That’s about 194th on my wishlist.

Because my definition of “success” is things like:

- Getting 8 hours of sleep 
- Ordering an Uber without guilt
- Opening a bill without my chest tightening
- Spending PMs/weekends not thinking about work
- Taking a day off to be with my daughter - guilt-free

It’s about peace.

The ability to exhale and think:

“Life is good. I’m okay. I’m safe.”

That’s the real goal.

So if you’re building right now and it feels:

Too slow. Too uncertain. Too damn hard.

I see you.

It’s not about where you are today.
It’s about where you’re heading.

And when you get there?

It’ll be worth every late night, every wobble, every sacrifice.

I promise you ❤️

Most people: “I want to do it ALL.”
Me: “I want to do less. Thanks.” 😌

The world SCREAMS:

- More offers
- More clients
- More targets
- More revenue
- More platforms

More, more, more!

And so you try...

But end up doing everything at 60% 👎🏼

Your results? Naff.
Your energy? Drained.
Your status? Exhausted.

Couldn't be me 😜

I want to work at 95-100%.

So I FORCE myself to:

- Build around what actually works
- Design my work to fit my energy
- Focus on one thing at a time
- Say no more than I say yes
- Outsource what drains me

When I do less?

I do better work.
For better clients.
With better results.

And the best part?

I get to enjoy life:

🧖🏽‍♀️ Slow skincare mornings
🐾 2 hour walks with my dogs
👩🏼‍🍼 Trips to the park with my daughter
🥖 Brunch with mates that isn't rushed
📅 Weekends when I don't check emails
🍝 Midweek dinners that aren’t Uber Eats
📚 Reading, writing, creating without pressure

Want to be known for something?

Pick one thing. 
Get great at it. 
Repeat.

It's that simple.

P.S. Don't confuse "busyness" with "business".

8 years ago, I arrived in the UK with a suitcase.

I wanted to be a West End superstar.

But the reality was...

I barely spoke the language.
I had a dream and less than £100.
I lived in a one-room mouldy bedsit.

Every day, I walked nearly an hour to college in freezing weather because I couldn’t afford the bus.

Every penny I earned went on rent.
Or my 49p pot noodle dinners.

And for a long time...

Survival was the only goal.

Then life threw more curveballs.

💔 An abusive relationship that left me terrified.
💔 A stroke that ended the performing career.
💔 A toxic finance job that left me physically sick.

At one point, I genuinely thought:

“This might be it. This might be all my life ever is.”

But in 2022, it changed.

I typed six words into Google: 
“How to start a business in the UK.”

Two years later…

💻 I run a multi-6-figure speaking business.
🎤 I get paid to speak on stages around the world.
🤝 I’ve coached more than 150 founders and leaders.
🏡 I’m building a safe, happy home I used to dream of.

But the best bit?

(BY FARRRRRR).

I now run that business part-time, with my daughter asleep in her pram next to me while I work from home.

I can choose family and fulfilment.

Without sacrificing either.

(The ultimate win in my eyes).

My story is proof that you can rebuild from nothing.

That you can rewrite the story.

No matter how messy the first few chapters are.

Keep going ❤️

This little PDF helped me cash £50K in speaking fees.

 (And I’m giving it away for FREE)

But only to 50 people!

It’s my Speaker One Sheet template 📝

A customisable Canva doc
Just edit, add your info… 
And start pitching!

It has space for you to plug in your:

 – Social links
 – Signature talks
 – Contact details
 – Speaker photos
 – Short bio summary
 – Pricing & packages
 – Testimonials & references
 – Past speaking engagements

This'll make you "look" like a CREDIBLE speaker.

Attach it to your:

→ Speaker applications
→ Outreach emails
→ DM pitches

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→ To be serious as a speaker.
→ To get actual replies.
→ To land bookings.

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